As a parent, you know all about habits–good and bad. You see it as your child practices habits at home, in school and even in sports.

As parents, you also have habits. And if your child plays youth sports, you will make choices in how you parent that will become habits. Those habits will affect your child’s youth sports experience. In my new booklet 11 Habits of Happy and Positive Sports Parents, I talk about habits that will make you and your child’s experience in youth sports much more enjoyable.

I want to share one of those habits with you now: the habit of simply being the parent and letting the coach do his or her job.

Although parents and coaches should be on the same team in youth sports--helping kids grow, learn and have fun in competi- tion--they do not have the same jobs

The Coachs Job

• teaching skills

• creating team unity and focusing on the team as a whole

• helping kids see that hard work can be fun

• stretching kids to grow in character

• pushing kids to perform to the best of their ability

• coaching the team to play hard and hopefully win

  • communicating to parents (not during practices and games!)

The Parent's Job

On the other hand, the parent’s job is to support his child, the entire team, and the coach, and that’s it. Unfortunately, most parents do not stick to their job description. They blur the lines, step over into the coach’s territory, and take over some of his jobs. You’ve probably seen it:

    • Parents that compare, complain and disrupt team unity

    • Parents that insist their children work on skills outside of    practice and games

    • Parents that compare, complain and disrupt team unity

    Parents and Coaches are Partners

    Let the coach do his job and you do yours, even if you don’t like him or agree with his strategy. When parents and coaches can partner like this and do what is best for the kids–not what is best for their egos or insecurities–then the real winners of the game are your kids.

    Learn about the other 10 Habits of Happy and Positive Sports Parents in Janis new book 11 Habits of Healthy and Positive Sports Parents. You can order the book on Amazon.

    Who Is Janis Meredith?      

    Janis helps busy and often overwhelmed sports parents by providing guidance and resources to guide parents as they strive to give their children a growing and positive youth sports experience.  You can find much more of her content at her blog, JBM Thinks SportsParenting



    Buford Mobley

    Buford Mobley is passionate about educating soccer parents and helping to guide them through the bewildering and complicated maze of elite Youth Soccer. He focuses on practical strategies that parents can use to develop confident, successful, and happy soccer players. He is the Father of a daughter who played recreational soccer for eight years, and a son who currently plays competitive travel soccer. He holds a “F” license with USSF.

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